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Color Choices in Card Making

Lotus Blossom in Melon Mambo (image c. Stampin' Up!)

Lotus Blossom in Melon Mambo (Image c. Stampin’ Up!)

A couple of weeks ago, I spent the afternoon making cards (as I do most weekend afternoons). I was working with a colorful group of Stampin’ Up!’s designer series papers and their coordinating solid colored card stocks (mostly Melon Mambo) but was getting tired of making thank you, birthday, and thinking of you cards, more appropriate to the colors I was using. So my mind started to wander to the new Lotus Blossom stamp set I’d received during this year’s Sale-a-Bration promotion. I decided to try it out using Melon Mambo ink.   The results were spectacular, as you can see.

But the question now was, what type of card should I make to go along with it?   My answer? A sympathy card! The message inside reads “May you find comfort in God’s word and in the knowledge that others care and sympathize with you.”

Sympathy Card in Pinks with Lotus Blossom (images c. Stampin' Up!)

Sympathy Card in Pinks with Lotus Blossom (images c. Stampin’ Up!)

Apology Card in pinks (images c. Stampin' Up!)

Apology Card in pinks (images c. Stampin’ Up!)

I used the same patterned paper, stamp set and light pink card stock base to make a general “apology” card (there is no sentiment stamped on the inside so it can be used for any occasion where “I’m sorry” needs to be said).

As I think I’ve written here before, I love bright colors.  But as I step back now after a few weeks, I must admit I’ve begun to question that decision. Seriously.  Pink for a sympathy card?!?!?!  What was I thinking?

Obviously, I wasn’t.  While I can’t quite bring myself to dislike these cards (I just love the colors) I know in my heart that the colors clash with the sentiments they convey.  And as much as my head tries to rationalize it (even as I write this I continue to try to justify the color choices…..), I know I went a little too far with my creative license on these.

Just as per Ecclesiastes 3:1, To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven, to every occasion there are fitting card designs and less fitting ones.  Not that an occasional non-traditional look isn’t good.  It can be great in fact, but more me, at least, I think I’m going to stick with the traditional from here on out.  In fact I spent this morning working on sympathy cards that can be used at work.  They are all done in browns, ivories, greens, and rich purples.  They look much more appropriate, don’t you think?

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Sympathy Cards by Certain Smiles, images c. Stampin’ Up!

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Sympathy Cards by Certain Smiles, images c. Stampin’ Up!

Sympathy Cards by Certain Smiles, images c. Stampin' Up!

Sympathy Cards by Certain Smiles, images c. Stampin’ Up!

I could go on about the “psychology of color” (and there are plenty of websites out there on the subject), but I think, for now at least, I’ll just stick with my gut instincts….and avoid pink for sympathy cards in the future!!

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What to Say in a Sympathy Card

As promised in my last post, here are some phrases and quotes to use in sympathy cards, culled from the gazillion of websites out there that present the exact same information (and a few from my Stampin’ Up! stamps). I’ve simply chosen my favorites. Perhaps the best site I found out there on the subject, providing detailed step-by-step instructions, and innumerable sample phrases, is not unsurprisingly by Hallmark.

Phrases

  • You are in my thoughts
  • My thoughts and prayers are with you
  • Thinking of you
  • Thinking of you during this difficult time
  • With heartfelt condolences
  • May your memories bring you peace
  • My heart goes out to you in your time of sorrow
  • With thoughts of peace and courage for you
  • Words seem inadequate to express the sadness I feel about [deceased’s] death. I am here to for you as you grieve
  • May your heart and soul find peace and comfort
  • Peace, Prayers and Blessings
  • Wishing you peace to bring comfort, courage to face the days ahead and loving memories to forever hold in your hearts
  • May you be comforted by the outpouring of love surrounding you
  • May peace and comfort find you during this difficult time
  • I am very saddened to hear of your loss
  • I am thinking of you as you celebrate [deceased’s] wonderful life and the memories you shared
  • Extending my heartfelt condolences to you at this difficult time
  • Grief is the reminder that we loved and were loved
  • I am lucky to have known someone it was so hard to say goodbye to

Quotes

  • Like a bird singing in the rain, let grateful memories survive in time of sorrow.Robert Louis Stevenson
  • We meet no ordinary people in our lives – C. S. Lewis
  • What we have once enjoyed, we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes part of us. – Helen Keller
  • The greatest tribute to the dead is not grief but gratitude. – Thornton Wilder
  • Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal. – From a headstone in Ireland
  • In the night of death, hope sees a star, and listening love can hear the rustle of a wing. –Robert Ingersoll
  • To live in hearts we leave behind. Is not to die. – Thomas Campbell, “Hallowed Ground”
  • For death is no more than a turning of us over from time to eternity. –William Penn
  • Blessed are those who mourn; for they shall be comforted. – Matthew 5:4
  • They that love beyond the world cannot be separated by it. Death cannot kill what never dies. – William Penn
  • Tears water our growth. – William Shakespeare
  • Say not in grief ‘he is no more’ but live in thankfulness that he was – Hebrew proverb
  • Love is eternal, the aspect may change, but not the essence. Vincent Van Gogh
  • They are not gone who live in the hearts of others – Native American Proverb
  • Though nothing can bring back the hour, of splendor in the grass, of glory in the flower, We will grieve not, rather find Strength in what remains behind. – William Wordsworth

 

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What to Say in a Sympathy Card After a Pet Dies

“… what we have enjoyed, we can never lose … all that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” ~Helen Keller

Jaworksi and Virginia around 2008

Jaworski and Virginia, ca. 2008

The last month has been a little bit rough for me because my cat Virginia has been having some health problems. She will be 18 in August, so it’s not that it’s surprising that she’s in failing health, but she’s experiencing pretty much the same symptoms (and same condition) that my other elderly cat, Jaworski, succumbed to last year. As Yogi Berra would say, “It’s déjà vu all over again.”

So I pretty much know what the eventual outcome of all this will be. The only question is when. I don’t mean to be morbid here, just realistic. I’d rather write this now, while I still have her company to enjoy – and she still is the sweetest little cat I know. OK, I must confess, when she jumps on my head at 3 a.m. and starts chewing on my hair because she wants breakfast, I do have other feelings towards her. But aside from that, I am so thankful that, when I naïvely went to a rescue group on a New Year’s Day so long ago, not really knowing what to look for in a cat, that they handed me Virginia and Jaworski and said, “here, they’re ready to be adopted.”

Virginia, June 2014

Virginia, June 2014

So what do you do when someone you know loses a pet? I know some people, particularly those who have never owned pets, may not really “get” how very important these companions can be in the lives of their pet parents. They may think or say things like, “they’re just animals, it’s not like they’re humans.” (I know, I’ve had someone say this to me.) And maybe that’s true for some owners. Maybe for them, the pet / person bond isn’t as strong as that between people. I think that may be true particularly in busy households where the pet, unfortunately, almost becomes an afterthought.

But for me, and most other pet owners I know, the connection is very strong. Call them what you will, fur babies, four-footed children, or simply faithful companions, but there is no denying that their passing always leaves a big hole in their owners’ hearts. Sending a card to let your family member or friend know you sympathize with their loss will acknowledge their grief – a grief some in our society will scoff at – and help them with the healing process.

Ah, now the tough part……what to say……. Here are some ideas:

  1. Just let them know they are in your thoughts at this time and that you understand their need to grieve: “Keeping you close to my heart at this difficult time”, “I know how much you’ll miss having [Fluffy] as part of your life”
  2. Being a pet parent is a big responsibility – and in many ways thankless. Particularly if the pet was an adopted rescue or stray, remind them what a difference they made in the life of their friend: “[Spot] couldn’t have asked for a better forever home.”
  3. If you knew the pet personally, make reference to a good memory about them: “I smile every time I think of how loudly [Patches] snored. He was such a content kitty.”
  4. If you’re totally at a loss for words, you can add a quote to the card (like the one I used at the start of this post) or a Bible passage, such as Psalms 22:24 (For he has not despised or disdained the suffering of the afflicted one; he has not hidden his face from him but has listened to his cry for help).   And, while your pet parent friend has probably already heard it, the Rainbow Bridge poem may be appropriate to share with them as well.

If you are reading this post in anticipation of sending a sympathy card to someone who has just lost a pet, I’m hoping this paragraph is unnecessary, but I’ll add it just in case.  As for what not to say, just use some common sense.  For example, don’t suggest that getting a replacement will help them heal.  You certainly wouldn’t say that to someone who had just lost their spouse!  Besides, there is no “replacement” for a pet.  There may be other pets, but one can never take the place of another.

OK, enough on this sad subject.  I promise, next post will be cheery!

 

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